{"id":4182,"date":"2014-10-06T09:47:15","date_gmt":"2014-10-06T14:47:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/?p=4182"},"modified":"2014-10-06T09:47:15","modified_gmt":"2014-10-06T14:47:15","slug":"relationship-testing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/musings\/snip-its\/relationship-testing\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationship Testing."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>My first really serious girlfriend, to whom I eventually became engaged only to eventually go our separate ways, once said something along the lines of, &#8220;<strong><em>We have to test our relationship.<\/em><\/strong>&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>My mind completely rebelled at the very idea. Why?\u00a0 Because once you start testing, when do you stop?<\/p>\n<p>Testing a relationship is a truly stupid thing to do.<\/p>\n<p>It places a completely unnecessary strain on something that should never be strained.\u00a0 Relationships don&#8217;t break because they are weak, they break because they are tested beyond their breaking point.\u00a0 If they are weak relationships dissolve naturally without ever being subjected to a test.<\/p>\n<p>Am I saying we should never say or do anything that places the slightest strain on a relationship?\u00a0 Absolutely not, because in itself that would be a massive test of one side of the relationship &#8211; our side.\u00a0 If you&#8217;re not free to be you, then you&#8217;re a slave, and if you&#8217;re a slave&#8230; well then you should strive to be free.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My first really serious girlfriend, to whom I eventually became engaged only to eventually go our separate ways, once said something along the lines of, &#8220;We have to test our relationship.&#8221; My mind completely rebelled at the very idea. Why?\u00a0 Because once you start testing, when do you stop? Testing a relationship is a truly [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[347],"class_list":["post-4182","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-snip-its","tag-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4182","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4182"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4182\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4182"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4182"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4182"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}