{"id":4337,"date":"2015-01-27T11:09:33","date_gmt":"2015-01-27T16:09:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/?p=4337"},"modified":"2015-01-27T11:09:33","modified_gmt":"2015-01-27T16:09:33","slug":"on-abortion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/general\/on-abortion\/","title":{"rendered":"On Abortion."},"content":{"rendered":"

Words matter to me. A lot<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Especially when I discover that words are being used to manipulate me.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t like being manipulated. At all<\/em>.<\/p>\n

And thus to the topic of this post. A topic that rears its ugly head every time an election is coming up, then buries that head in the proverbial sand once election time is over. That topic is the question of Pro-Life vs. Pro-Choice<\/strong>. Since there aren\u2019t any imminent elections this seems like a very good time to address the issue. Why? Because the waters haven\u2019t been muddied by manipulative politicians.<\/p>\n

Let me tell you right now \u2013 I think abortion is wrong. I don\u2019t believe a single person in the world is pro-abortion. Not a single person. However my beliefs aren\u2019t the issue. The issue is whether a woman has the right to make the choice to terminate her pregnancy.<\/p>\n

Please make special note of my words. I\u2019m not twisting them in order to manipulate your emotions and thereby reduce your capacity for clear thinking. I\u2019m choosing my words carefully to try and convey the essential issues. And one of those essential issues is that the person pregnancy affects is the woman. It is \u201cher pregnancy\u201d.<\/p>\n

Convention in the United States holds that the politically correct way for a couple to describe pregnancy is with the words, \u201cWe are pregnant<\/em>.\u201d Before you nod agreement with how that phrasing asserts the man\u2019s involvement and commitment to his partner, stop and think. {Notice I did not use the words, \u201chis wife\u201d.} A man cannot be pregnant. It is not physically possible. Yes, a male\u2019s semen is required for fertilization of a female\u2019s ova \u2013 but a male cannot be pregnant. For the male to claim, \u201cWe are pregnant\u201d, is not only ridiculous it is offensive in that it diminishes something which is the sole prerogative of females. It also implicitly claims ownership of the female\u2019s pregnancy. Pregnancy is not owned, and it most definitely is not \u201cours\u201d. It is \u201cher pregnancy\u201d.<\/p>\n

Do you think the last paragraph is making a big deal out of something innocent and cute? It isn\u2019t. Words really matter<\/em>. They hold immense power to twist our perception. I wonder who originated the expression, \u201cWe are pregnant\u201d? I wonder if it might be the same clever people who came up with the slogan, \u201cPro-Life vs. Pro-Choice\u201d?<\/p>\n

Manipulative words\u2026<\/p>\n

I am not only pro-life, I am pro-choice. There is no \u201cversus\u201d in that statement. I believe life is a remarkable, generous, incomprehensible, and utterly inexplicable gift from the divine. I also believe I have no right to compel any female to see an unwanted pregnancy to term.<\/p>\n

No one has a right to make choices for other people. No one. Not in religion, not in belief, not in sexual preference, and not in pregnancy.<\/p>\n

The only competition between those who want every child to have a chance and those who want every woman to have a choice is a manufactured and manipulative one.<\/p>\n

Words really matter<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Allow me to share some of the thoughts that come to my mind every time the emotive matter of abortion raises its ugly head.<\/p>\n

Why did the woman fall pregnant, was it due to a lack of sex education, or a lack of adequate access to birth control? Surely prevention is better than its terrible alternative?<\/p>\n

What in the female\u2019s situation compels her to consider abortion? Is she young and ashamed? Is she a victim of abuse? Does pregnancy place her at risk? Can she afford to raise a child? Is she alone, or with a committed partner? Does she feel she has a choice?<\/p>\n

Raising a child is a lifelong, incredibly expensive commitment. Yet I NEVER<\/strong> see the financial considerations raised. Are those who are so committed to eliminating a woman\u2019s right to self-determination offering to pay to raise the child? No, they are not. They don\u2019t even offer to pay for the delivery, let alone the lifelong costs. They allude to help being available, but they don\u2019t actually say, \u201cCome to this address. We\u2019ll pay for your travel costs. We\u2019ll pay for your accommodation and medical expenses during your pregnancy. We\u2019ll pay for the birth. We\u2019ll guarantee the child is adopted by a loving family. We\u2019ll take care of everything, so long as you don\u2019t choose abortion<\/em>.\u201d They don\u2019t make any such commitments, yet they are willing to force the pregnant female to make them.<\/p>\n

Who is carrying a child inside their body? Is it me, or is it her? Since it is her, what right do I have to make the choice for her?<\/p>\n

No matter what I believe, or how strongly I feel, I simply cannot reconcile myself with eliminating any other person\u2019s right to self-determination. Can you?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Words matter to me. A lot. Especially when I discover that words are being used to manipulate me. I don\u2019t like being manipulated. At all. And thus to the topic of this post. A topic that rears its ugly head every time an election is coming up, then buries that head in the proverbial sand […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[16,333,334,372],"class_list":["post-4337","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-general","tag-abortion","tag-pro-choice","tag-pro-life","tag-self-determination"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4337","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4337"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4337\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4337"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4337"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cgayling.com\/malmaxa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4337"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}