Category: Random Musings

Random thoughts, from a random mind – mine. I’m fairly confident my viewpoint differs from that of the majority.

  • Relationship Testing.

    My first really serious girlfriend, to whom I eventually became engaged only to eventually go our separate ways, once said something along the lines of, “We have to test our relationship.

    My mind completely rebelled at the very idea. Why?  Because once you start testing, when do you stop?

    Testing a relationship is a truly stupid thing to do.

    It places a completely unnecessary strain on something that should never be strained.  Relationships don’t break because they are weak, they break because they are tested beyond their breaking point.  If they are weak relationships dissolve naturally without ever being subjected to a test.

    Am I saying we should never say or do anything that places the slightest strain on a relationship?  Absolutely not, because in itself that would be a massive test of one side of the relationship – our side.  If you’re not free to be you, then you’re a slave, and if you’re a slave… well then you should strive to be free.

  • An Artist’s Eyes

    ~ An Artist’s Eyes ~
    ~
    Perhaps the mark of an artist’s eye
    is that where others see clouds,
    we perceive a sad sky.
    Where others see ugly,
    we see beauty, covered by a lie.
    Where others see hearts torn asunder,
    we see love, eagerly awaiting plunder.
    Where others see storms,
    artists see all,
    illuminated by the lightning,
    that strikes before thunder’s fall.
    ~

    I hope you enjoyed that little poem. If you’re interested in my motivations for writing it please read on.

    There is truth in all things, we have only the need to find it. Yes, sometimes the truth seems dark and dismal, however it never is. That which is dark and dismal is the deeds that the truth illuminates.

    Likewise is natural beauty found in all things, we merely need to look more closely than we do. Examined with more than superficial curiosity even a dusty little piece of gravel, something we trod on without the slightest thought, transforms into perfectly formed crystals more intricate than anything humanity produces. Are not the most wonderful patterns, and the most varied, to be found when something we define as “transparent, odorless, and tasteless” falls from a chilled sky. Cold grants a new form, and a truly mystical beauty, to water as it is transformed into snowflakes.

    Why do we shy away from those with a broken heart? Do we fear their pain is contagious? Are we so cowardly we fear we might feel it too? Like so many chances missed due to our own inner fears, even a broken heart is filled with opportunity. Broken hearts bleed love, while mended hearts don’t stem that flow. When we perceive pain we should rush to the aid of the injured. It matters not if that pain is physical or emotional, pain tended is pain lessened. Pain shared in comfort forms powerful bonds.

    In modern society so few seem willing to argue. They would rather close their eyes, their mouths, their hearts, and their minds to the chance they might be incorrect. An argument is like a storm. Voices raised in passion are the thunder. Insight into our antagonist’s point of view is the lightning that illuminates who they really are. And as for us, our revealed passions grant them chances to see us as we truly are. Recently I tweeted this thought –

    In passion lies truth.

    Please consider these thoughts the next time you find yourself timidly closing your mouth instead of speaking your mind. The real you lives within your passions. Don’t you want the world to know that special, unique individual?

    {P.S. Within Malmaxa the number six, the precise number of segments to every snowflake ever formed, is held to be the “The number of the Gods.” Why might this be?}

  • Reviewers should be revered, not reviled.

    {edit 02/23/14} If you’re an author, you’ve had bad reviews or unfavorable press. It happens. What should never happen is you opening your mouth and ramming both your feet down your throat in an attempt to suppress those bad reviews. That is the essence of this post – how bullies behave, and how we should not. Sadly, it uses a real-life example to illustrate how smart people do not behave. Read it and learn. From the comments posted after the post I think you’ll see the perpetrator hasn’t learnt.{/edit}

    A couple of days ago I witnessed some truly appalling behavior by an author named Ben Coulter toward a reviewer. Indeed I found it so reprehensible I could not allow it to pass with only a couple of tweets.  I placed my own work on hold in order to post about it, and considering how little time I have to write, compiling this post has been a significant sacrifice for me. I hope it is time well spent and that other independent authors might learn something from it.

    Read on and make up your own mind. {When Ben Coulter’s nauseating behavior wearies you, as is surely will, you might be interested to read why we all need honest reviews.}

    The images of tweets that appear below give a chronological look at parts of the conversation. Yet, as with many things, the real truth is to be found between the lines. Or, in this case, between the tweets. My thoughts on the hidden truths appear between the screenshots. Now, get ready to find out just how unpleasant and malicious some people can be.

    The start of it all.
    The start of it all.

    Notice Jade does not mention the name of the offender. That is considerate of her and shows obvious class. I re-tweeted her post shortly after 9am Feb 13 then replied to it with the tweet below.

    My reply to @jade in the form of an observation about the sort of bully that makes such threats.
    My reply to Jade in the form of an observation about the sort of bully that makes such threats.

    I wonder if my words will prove prophetic… The entire day passes, until about ten hours later I when tweet again. Within 2 minutes BAM!

    Out of the blue...
    Out of the blue…

    The tweet above appears in my interactions. I don’t recognize the name, but I do recognize the avatar. This Ben Coulter doesn’t follow me, and I don’t follow him. I wonder how he managed to notice me being online? I also wonder how he thinks I could have read the review “in question” since there is no link to it within anything I’ve mentioned or seen till his tweet.  Jade’s only plea was for support against a bully who threatened her, I gave her that support.
    I offer Ben Coulter some impartial advise. Impartial because I don’t know him or Jade, but I do know wrong when I see it and Coulter’s threats toward Jade were and remain wrong.
    The exchange below occurs.

    I wonder if he is proud he managed to intimidate @jade into deleting her review.
    I wonder if he is proud he managed to intimidate @jade into deleting her review.

    Notice the time-stamp at the bottom of the image. Also notice the adjustment of the truth in what Coulter says his threat was. The devil is in the details, and I am detail oriented. I look back at the original tweet and sure enough, that isn’t precisely how he framed his threat toward Jade.
    I ignore Coulter for a couple of minutes while I catch up on what has been happening on my friends timelines.
    Bam! Another out of the blue tweet. But now he’s turned his attention, and his ire, to me and posts this in a thread all by itself.

    Now he's decided to attack me?
    Now he’s decided to attack me?

    After a minute or so contemplation whether I should feed the trolls I reply.

    BCoulter my 2nd replyHowever I notice my reply hasn’t taken the form of a reply. It turns out Coulter, like a complete coward, has already deleted his inflammatory comments toward me. Unfortunately for him I keep my interactions in a separate tab of my browser. To ensure it doesn’t seem like I’m the one originating the attack I capture images of all his tweets {thus the evidence within this thread} and post the image of his attack tweet, along with his further attack.

    now he wants me to leave him alone? Strange, since he started this.
    now he wants me to leave him alone? Strange, since he started this.

    Immediately after, and indeed during this exchange Coulter deleted all of his tweets. However, this is the internet, and the evidence is everywhere. I took the time to report his abusive behavior to Twitter, but since I don’t hold much hope of their doing anything I decided to post the sordid little story here.

    None of this should have happened.

    Coulter should never have threatened Jade. Period. He should have kept his foul mouth shut and never tweeted at me.  If he’d just remained silent my RT would have scrolled away to be forgotten, and he’d have remained anonymous.  If he’d responded to my impartial advice and apologized to Jade it is quite possible he might have turned a huge negative into a positive.  He made a series of very bad choices. Him, not me. And this is the payment the piper demands.

    I’m very sad to see Coulter’s nasty intimidation managed to drive Jade off Twitter, something which lent me further motivation for me to ensure the world can see this behavior for what it is.

    Jade, I hope you come back.  As I encouraged you in a DM, I also hope you publish your full review of his work on Amazon as well as on your blog. Don’t pull your punches.  He certainly doesn’t pull his.

    By the way, in a couple of days I’ll also be deleting my tweets that contain screen shots of this exchange.  Why?  Am I as cowardly as others who shall not remain nameless?  Possibly.  But my motivation is that the images which appear on my profile page are important to me and I don’t want trash taking space there.  After all, who likes to see a pristine beach littered with troll turd?  I know I don’t.

    {Addendum – Feb 16th, 2014.}

    Yesterday I posted this tweet

    Reviewers should be revered, not reviled. http://bit.ly/CGApRsR #review

    Note that it does not include Coulter’s twitter name. Several people re-tweeted it and a couple replied to the tweet.  None mentioned Ben Coulter’s twitter handle of @BCoulterAuthor. However, he proceeded to attack me, which I never saw since I have blocked him, and then to attack them. I only realized this when they began responding to his attacks and I noticed his twitter handle in their replies to him. I opened Coulter’s {IMHO he does not deserve to be addressed with any respect} timeline and watched in horror as he spent the next couple of hours tweeting some of the nastiest personal attacks I have been unfortunate enough to see on Twitter. Per his modus-operandi Coulter deletes as he goes, probably from fear he will be exposed as the nasty, small-minded, unpleasant, and cowardly troll he is. That doesn’t work. You see I use a web browser to access Twitter and I never refresh it, which means the trash stays there until I get sick of seeing it.

    The images below reveal a small part of how cowards can be big, bad, and pretend to be brave when they think no one is ever going to know.  The tweets below were some of the mildest Coulter posted. As those he attacked refused to back down he became more and more obscene, and frankly, more deranged.

    Additional abuse spewed in a public forum.
    Additional abuse spewed in a public forum by one Ben Coulter.
    spurious attacks on anyone who dares to question Ben Coulter
    spurious attacks on anyone who dares question Ben Coulter

    If you’d like to give Coulter the benefit of the doubt, and I encourage you to do so, here are the titles of the books Ben Coulter has published to date.
    Poisoned Saints
    Keep on Running
    When The Saint Comes Marching Home: 3 (Poisoned Saints)

    And if you’re in the mood for reading, here is a sample of my work. Please feel free to contrast and compare it to Coulter’s.

    {Addendum 2 – Let the lies begin (Feb 18th, 2014).}

    Not unexpectedly Coulter can’t let things simply fade away, unless he mistakes “fading away” for deleting his tweets, which he is prone to doing.  More interaction on my timeline today from one of the people he previously attacked made me open his timeline. {What can I say? Sometimes the urge to wallow of troll slime strikes the best of us.}  And what do I find?  Coulter’s usual Tweet and Delete behavior, along with an escalation into outright lies. Coulter begins slowly and escalates. As per previously, the devilish details are between the tweets.

    Ben Coulter starts with little lies.
    Ben Coulter starts with little lies.

    Why would I want to get attention from Coulter’s readers? I don’t write in the same genre as him, therefore his readers are very unlikely to have any interest in my work.  But, like all good lies, it almost sounds plausible.  Let’s move on.

    Ben Coulter moves from a subtle lie to a blatant one.
    Ben Coulter moves from a subtle lie to a blatant one.

    It didn’t take Coulter long to escalate from subtle mistruths to full-on frontal lies, 8 minutes by the time stamps. Coulter’s tweet is an outright lie. It is not open to miss-interpretation, it is a blatant lie. The only times I have ever addressed Coulter are shown as images in this blog post. To state that I, “the blogger and the reviewer woman had been attacking for a few days“, is an out and out lie.

    Unlike our cowardly troll from hell, I don’t Tweet attacks and frantically delete them minutes after in order to hide behavior that is abhorrent and utterly reprehensible.

    My timeline shows everything, and it really only makes sense if you read it that way. You see, most of my Tweets are in response to something else.  In fact, this blog post is in response to “Author” Ben Coulter attacking someone.

    Yes, I occasionally delete my tweets. For two reasons, first to fix typos, and second to clear images off my Twitter profile page. I did that with two of the tweets on this blog post that had images in them that detract from my profile page.  But they are here, and here they will stay.

    Why am I posting about this?

    Why am I bothering to spend my limited time posting about this unpleasant, lying troll named Ben Coulter?  Because too much of the world is willing to sit silent in the face of brutality, threats, and all sorts of morally reprehensible behavior.  Coulter has committed each of those atrocities.  Not against me, but against a reviewer who dared to tell him what she thought about his books.

    The above paragraph is not an opinion stated as a fact.  It is fact stated clearly through the images of Coulter’s words, captured before he took the coward’s way out and attempted to delete the evidence of his foul behavior.

    Our world has turned into the cesspool it is because people stay silent in the face of blatant bullshit.  As Edmund Burke said, “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.

    I refuse to “do nothing.” My Twitter timeline holds many examples of my refusal to “do nothing”, as does this blog.  This post is another example of my refusal to do nothing.

    Before I lay this post to rest I would like to say something that may not be obvious. I have never read any of Coulter’s work.  Not the samples on Amazon, nor anything else of his except his Twitter timeline.  You see this post has absolutely nothing to do with Author Ben Coulter’s ability to write novels that sell. All this post is about, is Coulter’s attempt to crush someone.  In his own, undeniable words “prepare for me to destroy you“. That, said to someone who dared to tell him they didn’t like his work. Sadly it seems he managed to drive Jade @Faceki off Twitter. I wonder if Jade is Coulter’s first victim, and whether she will be his last?

    You may choose to remain silent and “do nothing” in the face of evil, but I will not.

  • What is True Friendship?

    I place inordinate value in true friendship. Likely because I have so few. So what is True Friendship, to me?

    ~ True Friendship ~
    ~
    We can talk of many anythings,
    and understand.
    We can talk of many anythings,
    and never judge.
    We can talk of many anythings,
    and be forgiven.
    We can talk of many anythings,
    and still feel that we are loved.
    ~

    To me, this is the nature of true friendship. I have, and have had, only three that meet this test. And yes, true friendship is indeed something you should never test.

    Some of my thoughts on friendship from Twitter appear below, perhaps you might enjoy reading them.  If you’re on Twitter you can forward them to your friends by retweeting them from right here, with the button inside each tweet.

    While you consider my thoughts on friendship, ask yourself how many true friendships you have, and how much they mean to you. To me, mine mean the world.

    The blood that binds friendship, flows not in veins. #thought

    One of the most powerful things about social media is it’s ability to eliminate distance as a factor in friendship. #thought

    Words, the anvil upon which friendship is formed, or destroyed.

    #FF you say? Well, for me that inspired a poem about friendship – read it here:- http://bit.ly/CGApFrn And never forget your friends.

    A friendship without trust might be better termed a mutual-use association.

    Friendship is not subject to time’s passage.

    a sign of true friendship is that time may pass, yet nothing changes, and when together again, all is, the same.

    True friendship is something to be treasured, not tallied.

    How is friendship formed? From mutual likes, respect, and trust? Perhaps knowing you can reveal your true nature, without fear of judgment?

    {If you enjoyed this please look around, you’ll find [Samples] of my work to read, and perhaps some pieces that might be even considered poetic.
    Indeed, you’ll even find a poem about friendship, }

  • Very Inspiring Blog Award.

    veryinspiringblogaward

    A wonderful person I know only as Ursula nominated my blog for this award – more on her below.

    The Rules.

    1. Display the logo on your blog.
    2. Link back to the person who nominated you.
    3. State 7 things about yourself.
    4. Nominate 15 other bloggers for the award.
    5. Notify your nominees.
    {I’ll follow these, though the rebel within demands I re-sequence them.}

    The Link-Back.

    My nominator, is Ursula, from the blog An Upturned Soul.  Why Ursula decided to nominate me, she states upon her blog with her usual eloquence. I’m included in the list of people who inspire her, but I must wonder why… Only two reasons spring to mind. The first, that my tweets might inspire her, as hers inspire me.  The second, that she is reading Malmaxa, and sees reflected within its hidden depths, another world which touches her.

    Regardless of Ursula’s reason, her nomination means an enormous amount to me.  Her choice places me deeper in her debt – unlike matters monetary, this is a debt I am pleased to possess, and still more pleased to repay.  Ursula, you’ve granted me yet another memory I shall treasure, quite literally, forever.  Thank you.

    The Fifteen Nominees.

    Unlike Ursula, I had no difficulty in selecting fifteen bloggers.  Each of the following, in deliberately random order, inspires me in some way. For my reason why, hover your mouse over the link to their blog – it will reveal their twitter handle, and a hint.  I’ll comply with notification rule five, by tweeting each of them through Twitter – a continual stream of inspiration, least for me.

    Be warned, a click below will whisk you away, to another blog, at play,

    1. S L James Writing
    2. A Thought Grows
    3. Tuigen’s Wall
    4. Damaged & Dangerous
    5. faeries faeries faeries faeries
    6. Stephie Smith
    7. The Grumbling Gargoyle
    8. Sandra Gore Nielsen
    9. W.M.Morrell’s Musings From Down Under
    10. Iambic Utterances and Other Wayward Words
    11. Write Like A Wizard
    12. Write Now
    13. Amused By Books
    14. Rhyme Me A Smile
    xx. Daytime Insomniac
    15. sarah monagle, pondering it all

    Seven things, of me.

    Very well – each is true, yet cast within words which some might question.

    • I hail, from a land of five names, yet it is only called by one.
    • I am not as tall, as I used to be.
    • Though my brothers number four, there are only two.
    • Both of my twinned sisters bear the name, Elizabeth.
    • My name, is my own, yet borrowed from an honorable man.
    • Though I reside in Dublin, my soul remains bound to Africa.
    • My wisdom must be great, for I shed those teeth four times.

     

  • Follow Friday, 02-22-13.

    If you’re like me, you have enormous difficulty finding tweeters worth following. Rest easy, for a moment, for every one of them listed on this page is not only real, but they’ve shown themselves to be.  To me, they’re all worthy of a follow – perhaps they might be so to you, too. {this list was created manually, a labor of love, and considerable time and effort – but worth every moment it took}

    Last time I made attempt to replenish my Karma, by thanking the many unique people who took time to interact with me – twitter suspended me for spam.  Since then I’ve tried to be more cautious, and paid the price in guilt. Let’s face it, people deserve acknowledgement for their interactions.

    The following, in deliberately random order, are all real, and worth following. Happy Follow Friday, Favorite Friends – or whatever appropriate acronym you choose for this worthwhile Twitter Tradition – #FF, to you all.

    http://twitter.com/YanniLenee

    http://twitter.com/Dmnrcn6

    http://twitter.com/Pinky_0917

    http://twitter.com/Whizbuzz

    http://twitter.com/SusanRussoAnder

    http://twitter.com/EZSteven

    http://twitter.com/Gia_Jones7

    http://twitter.com/jazzyheathen

    http://twitter.com/WodkeHawkinson

    http://twitter.com/numinousword

    http://twitter.com/0liveee0il

    http://twitter.com/kristi_ayers

    http://twitter.com/PentacleSun

    http://twitter.com/manifest_1

    http://twitter.com/InkPoetry

    http://twitter.com/thinklink_co

    http://twitter.com/MAD_H0USEWIFE

    http://twitter.com/ThisPersSpace

    http://twitter.com/jjunebrown

    http://twitter.com/strawberriesncr

    http://twitter.com/Daytimer

    http://twitter.com/WMDAuthor

    http://twitter.com/mcknick85

    http://twitter.com/Amoreamiraa

    http://twitter.com/pickineye

    http://twitter.com/WWEnd

    http://twitter.com/GillianJackson7

    http://twitter.com/SciFiMagpie

    http://twitter.com/luscinnia

    http://twitter.com/Fathom_this

    http://twitter.com/thirdysmom

    http://twitter.com/AndySzpuk

    http://twitter.com/ceoNYTimes

    http://twitter.com/EveofXmas

    http://twitter.com/Alexandria_SZ

    http://twitter.com/XquisiteLiving

    http://twitter.com/kv8

    http://twitter.com/basicsofliving

    http://twitter.com/CaryNeeper

    http://twitter.com/SirMorose

    http://twitter.com/GeneralMom

    http://twitter.com/tania_she_says

    http://twitter.com/SBW1963

    http://twitter.com/Jacobleeding

    http://twitter.com/Luv_Adventures

    http://twitter.com/Death_Defiance

    http://twitter.com/theskinnybee

    http://twitter.com/thinkingnot

    http://twitter.com/Tuigen

    http://twitter.com/jay_squires

    http://twitter.com/FebruaryGrace

    http://twitter.com/ScottACoe

    http://twitter.com/junglebeat

    http://twitter.com/BethWheelered

    http://twitter.com/ShePlaysLoud

    http://twitter.com/betweenwords

    http://twitter.com/providenceMine

    http://twitter.com/jennihogan

    http://twitter.com/rumor_imbris

    http://twitter.com/dmkloba

    http://twitter.com/diddystudios

    http://twitter.com/Sandra_Gore

    http://twitter.com/Scott_Northcott

    http://twitter.com/JoKelly09

    http://twitter.com/Classy_Cassy89

    http://twitter.com/Namastespirit

    http://twitter.com/RhymeMeASmile

    http://twitter.com/TermiteWriter

    http://twitter.com/nycedaze_

    http://twitter.com/TerryYates1

    http://twitter.com/leslierobles71

    http://twitter.com/jovial_evil

    http://twitter.com/thefontofYahweh

    http://twitter.com/Michael_P_Ness

    http://twitter.com/1DougSimpson

    http://twitter.com/beggarsdream

    http://twitter.com/Eileenton

    http://twitter.com/Subtle_Red

    http://twitter.com/CSpirit

    http://twitter.com/RebMacrath

    http://twitter.com/LordEmmanuel

    http://twitter.com/TheproBookedito

    http://twitter.com/TheBinkyAnnexe

    http://twitter.com/AmandaPaulson41

    http://twitter.com/megmims

    http://twitter.com/craigfaris

    http://twitter.com/ShannonAlton

    http://twitter.com/TaylorTfulks20

    http://twitter.com/sophiashawbooks

    http://twitter.com/UviPoznansky

    http://twitter.com/chrisbflynn

    http://twitter.com/Baqi_BaNK

    http://twitter.com/tmoraitauthor

    http://twitter.com/PhebeOhYes

    http://twitter.com/Manisavane

    http://twitter.com/ladyrabit

    http://twitter.com/Jacqueline_Czel

    http://twitter.com/tavakamonk

    http://twitter.com/healingmuse

    http://twitter.com/TheHarbingerMag

    http://twitter.com/dmkloba

    http://twitter.com/ASPCA

    http://twitter.com/NikkisBookRevie

    http://twitter.com/parv88

    http://twitter.com/bookreviewtalk

    http://twitter.com/CarolTurner5

    http://twitter.com/Mystery_Woman01

    http://twitter.com/Marizanna

    http://twitter.com/BigfootHuntin

    http://twitter.com/mvinci

    http://twitter.com/rewinder223

    http://twitter.com/CherylRainfield

    http://twitter.com/AlanaMander

    http://twitter.com/iamtheharm

    http://twitter.com/HalRappaport

    http://twitter.com/dianemajor1

    http://twitter.com/silveragerus

    http://twitter.com/dwhite419

    http://twitter.com/POLARPLATINUM

    http://twitter.com/authordebbie

    http://twitter.com/littleearthbird

    http://twitter.com/TheLdyJayneGrey

    http://twitter.com/NaivePoet

    http://twitter.com/SusanStuckey3

    http://twitter.com/joypathall

    http://twitter.com/Smurfette005

    http://twitter.com/fashionlogic

    http://twitter.com/Santha_G

    http://twitter.com/KNycole_Lee

    http://twitter.com/TheMadReviewer

    http://twitter.com/chocl8girl

    http://twitter.com/Ran_de_Gota

    http://twitter.com/lakelady2282

    http://twitter.com/testsubject47

    http://twitter.com/dearsaima

    http://twitter.com/mcal29

    http://twitter.com/myraness

    http://twitter.com/amphetasoul

    http://twitter.com/UrsusAbstrusus

    http://twitter.com/welloverthought

    http://twitter.com/amiegallette

    http://twitter.com/2happyright

    http://twitter.com/jimjamnjabber

    http://twitter.com/CliveMullis

    http://twitter.com/WakeUpDanny

    http://twitter.com/GodBodyMantra

    http://twitter.com/MintyCow

    http://twitter.com/lee_mino

    http://twitter.com/amaniwf

    http://twitter.com/Nicholas_A_Rose

    http://twitter.com/jasbrai

    http://twitter.com/L0VECOOKies

    http://twitter.com/CuriousMindBlog

    http://twitter.com/dannipiddles

    http://twitter.com/BookaliciousCA

    http://twitter.com/42dreamer95

    http://twitter.com/LaLaRueFrench75

  • Karma’s Cost.

    I logged into Twitter this morning, full of good cheer – only to discover my account had been suspended for “Sending multiple unsolicited @messages”.

    Yesterday, I participated in what I believe to be a worthy tradition. The #FF, which I understand to mean Follow Friday. I considered #FF a valuable tool, as I’ve personally used it to find new people worth following. I mentioned some of the people who have interacted with me, most of them multiple times, during the course of last week.

    Apparently the Twitter powers that would be don’t like this behavior, because some time after I logged out for the night, {probably seven or eight hours after I sent my #FF’s} they decided to suspend my account. I guess Twitter consider themselves exempt from Karma’s rules, one of which I detailed as:-

    Karma: a force you initiate, yet cannot control or invoke on another. #thought

    It seems very much like Twitter invoked Karma on me, doesn’t it?

    Only, on the surface… {Yes, I know Twitter is an organization, and Karma really doesn’t apply, but bear with me.} Punishing me, for attempting to repay the accumulated goodwill of people kind enough to interact with me, has damaged them in my eyes. They’re a big organization, however enough little bursts of damage to their goodwill, will eventually cost them.

    I understand Twitter’s decision was probably the result of a program looking for malicious behavior – however, that program needs to act a little more intelligently, or people are going to take offense, just as I have.

    Twitter’s action toward me is like having the host of a party slap me in the face for introducing a few of my friends to each other. It is not pleasant. Frankly, it makes me want to leave this particular party – of course I’m not going to do anything hasty, but the desire is there, thanks to a single act on Twitter’s part. Which reminds me of another tweet:-

    Speak with care, for people remember a kind word for but a day, a cruel one forever.

    Acts, might be worse than words.

  • Marriage, a word’s meaning.

    Marriage, a wonderful word ~ a worthy institution ~ a question, of meaning…

    Although I never thought anyone had the right to tell another who they can or can’t love,  long did I hold the belief that the word marriage defined a union between a man and a woman. Very recently I was thinking about this and realized that limiting this particular word to a narrow, archaic construct has a major impact on people – my belief that a word should be limiting, placed severe constraints on others.

    Who am I to tell anyone who chooses to make a commitment, that they cannot – simply because the one to whom they commit themselves is of the same gender? I don’t have that right, and if I did… well, I would cast it away.

    In the past, I would have voted for any type of civil union, regardless of its name. Yet, within my heart, I reserved the word marriage for only the variety of union in which I am bound. My way, is not the only right way.

    Now, I must open my closed mind and grant others, different from me, their chance at happiness, their chance at lifelong togetherness. Call it a civil union, call it a marriage, or simply call it by its true name… love.

    While none of us has any right to determine the lie of another’s heart, everyone deserves a chance at completion.  Well done Washington, for taking a leadership role amongst the United States, once more.

    {04/14/13 you can read more of my journey to understand the meaning of marriage, here.}

  • Julia, my gem.

    This morning, my wife decided to drive me to work.  With her usual thoughtfulness she went out a few minutes early, unlocked the car and turned it on to warm up.  After admonishing my boy to brush his teeth I went out and climbed into the passenger seat.

    Julia appeared a moment later, opened the driver’s side passenger door, then stopped.  A brief pause, then she closed the door and came around to the passenger side and clambered in behind me.  Her brother is much taller than her, as I am to my wife – who had moved the driver’s seat forward.

    Julia hadn’t needed prompting to grant her brother the additional leg room, I doubt she’d even analyzed her action.  She’s thirteen, caring, and considerate… she’s my JuliaGem.

  • Morning Musings.

    Our son had a two hour delay this morning.  Julia, my 13 year old daughter, expressed her delight, “Great, with Gareth not going to school, I get to ride in the front.”

    Puzzled by this lapse in judgment from a child well versed in math, I frowned and responded, “Ahhhh… no, you get to ride in the back.”

    Julia shot me a disbelieving look, her brow imitating mine.

    I explained, “Mom’s driving, I’m in the front, and you’re also in the front – what’s wrong with that equation?”

    A smile crept onto Julia’s lips, as part of her school credit she had been forced to watch the Presidential Debacle on TV.   Eyes twinkly, she quipped “Nothing dad, in Gromney Math it makes perfect sense.”

    After laughing, I shook my head and said “Gromney math be damned, you’re riding in the back!”

    Yes, my 13 year old did indeed coin that phrase, along with many, many others.  If you’re interested in another of her little @middengem’s , then you might want to waste…
    {did I say “waste“, I meant “invest“. Ouch, I think I was bitten by a politician – is it contagious?}
    … more of your time reading this.