My first really serious girlfriend, to whom I eventually became engaged only to eventually go our separate ways, once said something along the lines of, “We have to test our relationship.”
My mind completely rebelled at the very idea. Why? Because once you start testing, when do you stop?
Testing a relationship is a truly stupid thing to do.
It places a completely unnecessary strain on something that should never be strained. Relationships don’t break because they are weak, they break because they are tested beyond their breaking point. If they are weak relationships dissolve naturally without ever being subjected to a test.
Am I saying we should never say or do anything that places the slightest strain on a relationship? Absolutely not, because in itself that would be a massive test of one side of the relationship – our side. If you’re not free to be you, then you’re a slave, and if you’re a slave… well then you should strive to be free.
